I love and care for her, we date and I told her I lust but I am not able to resist the temptation. Help me!?

[ernestino32]

Well I am 21 and she is 19. We are friends since childhood and she is a distant relation. I fell in love with her since I was 14. I did propose her when I was 18. She accepted me but said she was too young for a relationship. She does not have any boyfriend or inclination for any sort of such relationship towards any of her friends. We get along well as friends but do more than that. We kiss passionately sometimes when we are alone. She lets me feel her breasts and she even squeezes my lions. I tell you sometimes she is desperate to kiss me and waits for the moment. Well I have told her that if at all I wish to marry I want her as the bride. Well we even whisper into each other's ears "I love you dear". When I was 17 I told her I love her curves and I lust. Well we are very good in discussing our career aspirations me being her senior at college help her in her subjects, as both of us have taken Business Administration. We started to go out as if dating(well we go out more often, but some of our visits would aimed to be romantic). When I was 18 I once told her I was not able to concentrate as sometimes I have wild and wet dreams about us being intimate, when she said to meditate or to masturbate and get off the feeling or to call her and come to see her(if it was during day time). Sometimes when I went to her place when I felt I was too distracted and when she was alone at her home, she would make fun of me, ask me to carry to her bed and would tease me but we would not go beyond kisses or some closer holds. After a few holds she would ask me to use her rest room get over it(masturbate and be off with the feeling) and then give me a hot coffee and we would part. Well now I have got a job and I am getting a new home. Our parents know we have a liking and they do accept our relationship. Sometimes thesedays I get more of lusty feeling and she does get me meditation books cds or at times comes to my home and talks over. If extreme she catches my lions and squeezes and says "now just stop pounding".
She sometimes says she do gets wet dreams about me and sometimes she is itchy well she says she resists fingering herself just because she wishes her V Card be preserved for me.
Well I did ask her what is going to affect our relationship if we did go completely passionate and playing safe with a condom or a diaphram or a pill. As for marriage since we are relatives, we wish all our relatives and parents grace the occasion and it will take another 2years atleast. She suggests me to remain good may be work some miles apart and meet her once in 6months or so. Well if I wish I could im and have video chat on our webcam or atleast keep calling on the phone. In the mean time we sometimes text and share pictures of us (all explicit and sexual) Some of these we had posed for each other of our complete self with nothing to conceal, while others using timer function on our digital camera. All this had made us irresistable.
Now the problem is I feel we are hurting ourselves why not have our intimacy shared in full so that we could get over the guilty feeling or be satisfied for awhile. I told her that just once and then we can have it on after marriage. She says it too would become habitual.

Guys and Gals / Seniors what should I do my mind is completely filled with lust and not able to concentrate at times, help me please!!

[berend4]

Hi Sam,
It's hard to resist temptations for some one for whom you started lusting too early in life and when its your first love.

Well I appreciate you have a very good girl who is so mature and her resolute in her stand.

You ought to wait till marriage but thats not that painful if you do something like I am about to tell you.

1) Never sleep in your bedroom better sleep in the sofa in the hall where anyone may walk in anytime be it the night or day.
This helps dreaming real dirty at home.

2) Never be alone in the first place. Get as many friends and relatives as possible every weekend or holiday so that you have the business of engaging them and there is so much you can share in conversing with friends. Better buy a gaming console or play poker or something with your friends the idea is not to let your mind swing to your dirty thoughts.

3) Well you like hiking and treking its not a bad idea to go alone, you may get more friends on the way. Socialize better. (Well I believe you won't wish to get another girlfriend...kidding!).

4) Well on weekends ask her to bring her relative and friends along. Invite her parents too. You wont have the urge for just about sex.

5) Join some organization or group and keep you occupied working for a social cause.

6) To remain focussed at work resolve to get her an expensive gift and work towards your goal. (May be a cross country tour for your honeymoon, an expensive car, there is plenty of jewelery to buy for her, getting her the best audio or home theatre system. Say a bose lifestyle).

7) Don't meditate alone join a meditation class. Or go for a gym, join a club and go for your favourite sports game.

8) May be you go alone or take her too to some football match or whatever is your favourite sport.

9) Why not take up some higher education (But its hard to concentrate unless you do any of the above options as well). Get into group studies with your erstwhile college friends.

10) Hey learn cooking from your mother or playing a musical instrument joining a class.

11) Delete all nasty texts and and her pictures well if you both are reluctant in deleting and you will love to see those years after or after marriage, ask her to store all your pictures on a memory card or if thats not enough to contain a large thumbdrive or a external harddisk. You too transfer all those pics to a mem card or some storage device, both of you get a locker and put these into the locker and lock it for ever. Let the locker be operational only when you both go in person to retrieve or deposit. No more fresh pics!! Also if you have photo albums on paper store them in the locker. Stop video chats better stick to phone calls or audio chats alone. Never text chat!!

12) See to it that you both don't stay alone in the house or meet in your private rooms for you both are too vulnerable. Better have someone around in whose presence you don't dare to even signal eachother.

Hope you find these useful.

[sheiling13]

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[tauro96]

pray to get over with that feeling..
you do know that that is not love, but lust.
lust sometimes leads to immorality.

[lorin]

what the ****?

[orran86]

if you just want to kill the lust real quick think of your mom or grandmom or someone else that totally kills those thoughts

tried it on friends as well as myself works real well

stay pure she sounds like she is worth it good luck to you